I’ve been an adult and child psychologist for over two decades. People come to see me for answers. Over the years, I’ve discovered that people want quick answers. In the last several years I’ve discovered people even don’t want to spend time reading self-help books. I’m told they’re too long.
Instead, clients said they wanted to-the-point "how to" ebooks on specific psychology subjects.They wanted information to be inexpensive and easy to obtain, as in a downloadable manuscript. They wanted explanations, techniques and tools they could use to understand and to solve behavior problems. Most of my clients wished they could read something, fix their problems and avoid therapy. (If you need therapy, these ebooks will tell you, and also tell you what to ask propective therapists to make sure they know their stuff…)
Clients, and just about everyone else provided a long list of potential subjects. So, I began writing. So far, I’ve written five such ebooks on the subjects that most frequently come up in my outpatient practice. These are very popular subjects, or I should say, frequent problems seen in my office. But these kinds of problems pop up everywhere in real life, not just in my practice. I’ve listed them below in the order I wrote about them, starting with Diagnosing Your Anxiety, then Changing Children’s Behavior, Becoming Assertive, Fixing Self-Esteem and finally, Understanding Why Relationships Fail. The last two subjects have stirred up a lot of interest because everyone has personal experiences in these areas. Plus, the tools and techniques I’ve developed over the last 25 years are creating real breakthroughs in reducing symptoms, in or out of my office.
Each ebook is pithy (full of “substance”) but not lengthy. Each is to the point, not too technical and written in everyday language. Some have charts, others have self-rating scales for do-it-yourself types. Each is easy to understand and has the latest research, which represents the current standards of care. All the ebooks have treatment strategies–things you can do that work, often immediately.
If you click on the title just below, you will be linked to my website where you can get more information and download it. Click on the title for more information…
After I wrote the first ebook, another client said, “You should write a book about changing children’s behavior.” Well, I am a child psychologist and in the office I do talk a lot about how to deal with kids. So, I wrote a second ebook. I’m getting very good reviews on this book, too.
Like the first book, I tried to write in plain language about a to-the-point (and very popular) subject. I’ve included the concepts, techniques, etc. I’ve found that work over two decades. Most people think this should be described as an ebook for parents. It functions as such, but has more in it. This is also a manual on how to change anyone’s behavior, but especially kids’. Most of the issues I hear in the office are about what children do that needs "adjusting." So, I maily address those behaviors, focusing on positive techniques. (I’m not a big fan of negative treatments.) Later this year, I’ll adapt this approach to teens and will have another ebook on How To Change Teenager’s Behavior (Quickly). For now, this ebook covers ages two to eleven, and maybe twelve year olds, depending upon their maturity.
As usual, there is also solid research and industry standard information. Also as usual, there is no fat or fluff. The ebook is cheaper than my competition (the book store) and immediately available via download. You can read more about that and check it out also by clicking on its title.
The next ebook is on assertiveness because a lot of people aren’t. Its a simple skill, so I broke it down into its most basic steps and present them in order so that anyone can understand the concept. Learning assertiveness is key and sets up lots of later successes in any area involving self-esteem and relationships (that covers just about everything…) . I cover the top ten reasons people are not assertive and how to overcome resistance to success. Click on the title to go to the page that provides more in-depth information.
I recently finished writing my fourth ebook, "The Four Powers of Self-Esteem (or, How To Repair A Crummy Self-Image.) This is major work for a lot of people, so this ebook digs into some pretty deep intrapersonal dynamics. It outlines the four foundations of a healthy self-esteem. One of them has two components and has to do with assertiveness, so the seque is natural and easy between the Five Steps of Assertiveness (+) and this next ebook. This ebook has so much in it that in this space there is not nearly enough room to expound. Click on the title to read more on another webpage.
Then…..another client said, "Well, if self-esteem improves things, how will it help my relationship?" Since "relationships" is probably THE big subject in my office (and everywhere), I wrote a fifth ebook on that. (Another natural segue…) Since people usually gripe about the difficulties in their relationships, I approached the subject from the point of view of what goes wrong. Why do people have conflicts in relationships? Why do relationships crash? Turns out one has to understand a lot about the development or stages of relationships first, then explore, again, some of the "deep stuff" as I call it. Then, the dysfunctional patterns make sense. Following from that, fixing the relationships becomes easier. I provide lots of positive techniques, including what I call Structured Communication, which is a way to talk to your partner to address all the things people usually miss and later regret. At the end of the book are a series of positive approaches to your partner, which make HUGE differences… Read more…