I am by no means an expert on dating/marriage. I am a student rather.I was once married. My marriage only lasted a little more than 3 years. It was not my choice for it to end. When she left, I tried every thing you can imagine to get her back. I mean EVERYTHING! It didn’t work.
I will be honest in the beginning of my marriage there were some things I wish I would of done differently, but that is life, hind sight perspective always is that way. To try to win my wife back, I didn’t let my male pride intervene, but continued to press on, but as they say, “You can lead a horse to the river, but you cant make it drink.” In those moments of trying to make my marriage work, I researched a lot of material on relationships.
I remembered how I would talk to several women who were my co workers about my situation and I would share some of my notes with them to see if I was correct with my observations and things that would “wow” a woman. They all agreed with my findings.
Recently I came across those same old notes that I had gathered. I told myself “Man this is some good stuff, other guys need to read this, it could help them out with their Ladies.“ So, I decided to start “Romance Your Lady.”
Now the purpose of this web site is not to provide tips on how to find someone to date, rather, you already are in a relationship and you want that relationship to THRIVE and you want her to treat you as the HERO!
Typically us guys don’t want to go to Marriage counselors or even read books on relationships. We only do it when things are going bad (just like I did when my marriage hit the rocks). This should not be the rule, try reading books when things are going good. My advice is don’t wait for problems to occur first.
Being romantic is a decision. When we are romantic we acknowledge her and anticipate her needs making her feel special and adored. Now us guys we don’t read romance novels. We prefer not to watch “chick flicks.” So if we didn’t see our fathers romance our mothers, how are we supposed to know how to be romantic? It is not like we strive to be the receiver of being romanced by our Lady and let’s be honest we all want women to say, “we are romantic.”
“To feel romanced, a woman doesn’t want to buy her own flowers. She wants her lover to do it. She doesn’t even want to ask for them. If she has to ask for them it doesn’t count as romance. His self motivated purchase of cut flowers for her is a symbol that he cares for her and understand her needs. These kinds of symbols are very important part of romance. She doesn’t want a potted plant, but cut flowers that will die in five days. Why cut flowers? So that in five days he will go out again and prove his love for her and purchase more flowers!”
“It is not that men are unwilling to create romance. A man just doesn’t get why it is so important. He is romantic in the beginning to let her know how special she is, but once he has behaved romantically, he doesn’t instinctively realize why he has to keep doing it.”
If you make a diligent effort to use just a few of the techniques of Romance Your Lady you’ll produce a specific road map for your relationship.
This exercise workbook, is not just for you, but your lady has sections in it to fill out as well. The goal is for you to both fill out the answers to the questions and then review and discuss what was written. To make this a nice event, arrange to have dinner. You bring your copy and she will bring hers. During the course of the meal listen, ask and learn the many ways you can increase the love, appreciation, passion and friendship of each other. Read more…