In November of 1992 in Birmingham, Alabama a man who had just separated from his wife took an elevator at University Hospital to the 16th floor. He found his way to an open window in a little-used breezeway.
There, as tears rolled down his cheeks he looked down at the alley far below. "How could I have failed so completely at my marriage?" he thought as he contemplated jumping.
The pain he felt was like a knife twisting in his gut. His thought of suicide seemed like a quick way to stop the pain.
If you’re desperate to stop your divorce, I can relate to what you’re going through. I know, because that man was me.
I had made a mess of that first marriage, totally without intending to, but then no one intends to fail when they get married. But it can still happen to you.
But the happy ending of my story could be a major benefit to you in saving your marriage, as you’ll see below.
You don’t have time to waste on trial and error attempts to discover what will save your marriage. You need to know what precise steps to take right now to keep your spouse from bolting out of the marriage.
Fortunately, if you understand how to apply just two basic ideas, you have a greatly improved chance of saving your marriage, even if your spouse:
Since you’re reading this, I can guess that some time ago you may have lost the excitement that your marriage once had.
You’re missing the enjoyment of being together and the juice that made laughter easy and sex enjoyable.
And over the years that have passed, the quality that you enjoyed as newlyweds is gone. Can you relate to that?
Or perhaps you thought everything was okay and then were shocked to find out your mate was involved in an affair or had hardened his (or her) heart to you.
Fortunately, there’s a way for you to use a system that has worked for many other couples, not only saving their marriage from getting worse or ending, but actually improving it dramatically.
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For years, my wife Nancy and I have taught over 30,000 couples how to get their marriages back on track and Nancy has been a professional counselor and coach for more than 20 years. Nancy’s marriage advice articles have been downloaded more than 500,000 times.
And we have discovered the key to not only saving many of the marriages from divorce, but even bringing them back to life with a better level of intimacy than the couples had enjoyed in years.
These two rules may seem obvious. Yet, why do most spouses fail to apply them to their own marriage?
Spouses don’t always realize how what they’re doing is hurting the marriage. And they don’t know how to improve the relationship.
My wife Nancy and I can show you why so many fail and how you can succeed in stopping the decline of your marriage.
Once you REALLY understand and apply these two rules or ideas, then you have a dramatically improved chance of saving your marriage.
The biggest problem is that spouses don’t really understand that the habits, beliefs and attitudes (that is, their unconscious baggage) that they brought into the marriage are what tips the balance toward conflict instead of harmony.
In a nutshell, the diagram below shows our plan for you to save your marriage, stabilize it and begin to rebuild it.
This formula has worked for countless couples and has been the reason for the many, many testimonials we’ve received from grateful clients and customers. Click here to read a small selection of our testimonials.
After you’ve followed our instructions in saving and stabilizing your marriage by using the Marriage Rescue Pyramid above, you’re ready to take your marriage up to the next level.
No matter how distant or improbable getting back a healthy marriage may seem to you, we’ve seen many, many cases where spouses had almost given up hope.
And yet with our help they were able to recover their marriage, with the intimacy and feelings of love that they had once had with their mate.
Remember when you were a small child, learning to read. Everything seemed overwhelming to you, right? First you had to learn the alphabet. Then you had to slowly learn some simple words.
That is where you are right now in your marriage recovery. Some things may seem too much to handle or too difficult. But we’ll teach you to succeed by using small steps.
Progress using small steps is believable, remembering how you learned to read. And therefore, your progress in turning your marriage around is achievable, because you actually DID learn to read.
I downloaded the e-book and really studied it and found out I had some changes to make! I have read everything you have sent, over and over, because I needed hope, and you seemed like you knew what I was going through.
Changes started happening right away and I pray we will continue to have a marvelous marriage. Please continue to be online with your advice for other women who need you. God Bless You. 30 years and stronger now.
Now, whenever Nancy and I have one of our rare arguments or fights, we still get angry with each other. At that moment love feels remote.
And without what we know now, love would remain remote. Before I learned what we know now, I would have pouted for days, acting passive aggressive to "get back at her."
Now in the worst case, we can get back into loving harmony within an hour. But usually it’s in less than 10 minutes!
And it’s all based on the deceptively simple ideas of reversing the damage to your relationship with your spouse and starting to… Read more…