STOP! If YOU or Someone YOU LOVE Is “Cutting” Or “Self-Harming” …..Then This Is Going To Be The Most Important Web Page You Read Today…..
Because I’m going to tell you how to overcome the urge to self-harm so that you, or a person you love, will Never Again harm themselves as a way to get through life’s challenges.
Well, many parents of self-harmers and people who self-harm also answered yes to these questions and feel this way.
People who self-harm can feel caught and trapped and need the right answers to make positive progress in changing this behaviour.
Deliberate Self-Harm (also known as Self-Injury, Self-Mutilation or Cutting) is when a person deliberately inflicts physical harm on themselves. This is most commonly done in secret and often without anyone else knowing.
The intensity will vary in degree, but extreme cases can even appear like a suicide attempt, but may not mean that someone wants to end their life. It’s more a cry out for attention and/or a way of controlling some other ‘pain’ in their lives.
Some examples include cutting, burning, scratching, biting or hitting themselves. It can also include, pulling hair out and picking at wounds on your skin.
Most commonly, Deliberate Self-Harm is a behaviour that is used to cope with difficult or painful feelings.
Studies of this condition show one of the mail reasons for self-harm is to control emotional issues that have welled up inside as a result of bad life experiences and relationships. Common triggers for the condition include:
An important fact is that Cutting or Self Harm is a VERY COMMON condition much more common than people realize.
However it’s an INSIDIOUS BEHAVIOUR and needs addressing sooner rather than later as it can become quite dangerous.
In fact, many of those who get caught up in it describe it as an addiction they can’t get out of.
Everybody has emotional issues. The vast majority of people live their entire lives in a constant battle with their own mind and their own behaviors.
But people prone to Self-Harm take the extra step of hurting themselves in order to deal with their PAIN.
We carry with us ‘emotional baggage’ that needs addressing in one way or another .and SELF-HARMING is an outlet to try to deal with this an end result if you like.
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For some children and adults, self-harm can become so entangled in their lives that they feel that it’s the only thing keeping them from a complete breakdown.
They use it as a crutch to support their emotional patterns and to focus attention back on themselves.
Cutting becomes so entangled in their life, almost a dependency, that most don’t even to try to give it up.
It’s easier for them to Control The Pain Through Cutting than to face the reality of what is causing the pain and eliminate that pain through other means.
So cutting becomes their control mechanism wherever they feel hurt in any way. And it not only affects the person doing it, but their family and loved ones who support them as well.
Well I have in my many years of counselling!! I have seen it, dealt with it, and researched it. I have learned a lot about it over the last few years.
Melanie Wilson Natural Therapist and Counselor Treating people for Emotional Issues for over 8 years
Hi, my name is Melanie Wilson, and as a Natural Therapist and Counsellor for over eight years now, I have dealt with many patients that have emotional issues, and worked closely with them to treat their underlying causes afflicting their daily lives.
I have counselled parents with teens who were self-harming, working with them to address the needs of their kids on an emotional level with great success.
I discovered new ways to address their emotional issues so they could use that knowledge to implement change in their lives to stop them self-harming.
Self-harming may allow a person to feel better temporarily but within a short period of time, the same feelings and underlying emotions return.
And upon return, the emotions can become even more intense. They become more emotional and turn to dealing with it the way they know best, and that’s self-harming.
Crossing between emotional hurt and self-harming they never get past ‘go’, and the merry-go-round of self-abuse goes on.
They get caught in a Vicious Cycle, a Downward Spiral, that if not addressed, can do long term and permanent damage.
Both Physical Damage and Emotional Damage that can stay with them all their lives!! Not to mention leave ugly unsightly scars.
No one wants this! People need help to stop this behaviour. And the sooner, the better, for EVERYONE’S sake!
They don’t even realize it, but what they’re doing by self-harming is just a temporary solution. It doesn’t fix the root cause of the issue.
Understand that emotional pain is at the core of this behaviour. It needs to be addressed at the source for change to occur.
In order to break this sinister habit, one has to understand what is at the core of the problem. What emotions are underlying this and the reasons for those emotions being there in… Read more…