Nancy Wasson, Ph.D. Co-creator of "Overcome Control Conflict with Your Spouse or Partner"
“Introducing… What Every Spouse or Partner Needs to Know About Overcoming Control Issues”
"Thank you for your wonderful system to help me with my control issues. I’m convinced if I hadn’t listened to your advice my husband would have left me."
Sure you’re frustrated! The fact that you’re reading this means that control issues are a concern in your relationship and you want to do something about it.
Meanwhile the passive partner is feeling trapped, lost, confused, or resentful. Does this describe your marriage or relationship?
Or maybe your partner has accused you of being controlling, but you don’t agree. Even so, the perception of a control issue in your relationship creates a problem.
When control conflict in a relationship finally erupts, the mate who has been passive or submissive often feels like a ticking bomb is about to explode. And the controlling partner may be caught off guard, not knowing how to handle the new turbulence in the relationship,
Can you feel your marriage or relationship spiraling downward and you don’t know what to do to improve it?
In my professional career I’ve counseled many couples with control conflict tearing apart their relationship.
And I’ve learned a lot from clients just like you about what works and what doesn’t work in improving controlling versus passive dynamics in relationships.
But my husband Lee and I have discovered that the quality of a marriage or relationship doesn’t depend on avoiding control conflict altogether. That would be an impossible order.
Instead the key to having a great relationship is to handle conflicts in a way that preserves, nurtures and builds those close and bonded feelings you want with your partner.
Lee and I have found that the path to love, respect, passion and trust is to focus on doing the things that build a good relationship and to minimize those things that tear it down.
This is the way to create true intimacy, with the two of you joined in body, mind and heart—a soul connection. You can have it too.
Control problems are a huge strain in thousands of relationships every year that careen toward break-up, fragmented by angry exchanges, lifeless passion and shattered love.
If your answer is yes, don’t despair. Things always look worse if you’re at the bottom of a pit. But I have a ladder to help you get out. Really, I do.
Or maybe your relationship isn’t that bad yet, but you can see the direction it’s headed. And that direction isn’t where you want to go.
It is so exciting to know there is still much growing and evolving to do to make my marriage and me better!!!!!! I hope my sharing will help others so your wonderful work will continue to change lives and marriages. Thank you again!
I just spent another couple of hours rereading the Overcome Control Conflict transcript and soaking it all in after I listened to the audios all the way through. I had hunted all over the Internet for ways to figure out what my boundaries should be (as I’m crippled in this area) and how to establish them. Your program was the first and only really good advice I’ve found on the subject.
Today for the first time in my entire life, I looked in the mirror and thought, “I know what I am comfortable and not comfortable with. If he crosses that line, I know how to verbalize in a calm way how I feel about it. If he objects, I’ll listen to his side and say, “Well, we need to work out a mutual solution for this situation.” WHAT A GREAT FEELING!!! I know it’ll take practice and doing it in baby steps but my goodness, it’s doable!
I love the prayers at the end of the transcript. How clear, concise and heartfelt. Thank you for your gifts. You are being a blessing to many, many people.
When we asked our newsletter subscribers to take a survey about control issues in their marriage, the number one problem in the hundreds of responses we got back was that couples don’t have the kind of gratifying communication that makes them feel close.
And that’s a shame, because once learned, communicating at a deep level is so easy. It gives partners a sense of closeness, of being on the same wavelength, of being connected at the heart. Bonded in harmony and joined in love.
But you’re probably thinking, “You just don’t know my situation. My spouse (or partner) is difficult. He (or she) would never change the way things are in our relationship. I don’t think deep communication is possible between us.”
I understand. Many partners over the years who I’ve talked to have said the same thing. And now I’m going to share with you an insight that’s as simple as it is profound.
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Today Start a New Marriage or Relationship… Even if Control Issues Have Ruined Trust
Communication and trust are opposite sides of the same coin. You can’t have one without the other.
Have control issues in your relationship contributed in some way to a decline in trust between you and your partner? If so, I can guarantee that it’s affecting the quality of your communication in your relationship.
But you don’t have to suffer in a marriage or relationship without trust or communication! How do I know this?
Imagine a time when you as a child played on a see-saw with a friend who was bigger and heavier than you were. The bigger friend (call him Tommy) is sitting on his end… Read more…