If you feel like life is caving in on you, you are not alone. I understand how you feel. My name is Amelie Chance. Two years after my divorce, I fell to the bathroom floor at work in a full out panic attack. The memory of my break up was still very fresh. I decided right then and there it had been long enough. I knew I had to search out the solution to healing a broken heart, because I didn’t buy the old adage that “time heals all wounds.” It certainly didn’t for me. I decided it was time to climb back up from that bathroom floor and find the life that I knew still awaited me.
Here is the reality I discovered: No matter if you’ve broken up from a long marriage or lost your first love, no matter how impossible it may seem – you can heal. Whether you are 20 or 60, life can still go on and it can be not only meaningful, but also better and brighter than before. This does not happen because you ‘wait’ for time to heal you, but rather because you’ve taken action to heal your broken heart.
When I hit rock bottom, I read every self-help book out there and even went through intensive psychotherapy. The only thing this accomplished was to identify what was wrong with me. It didn’t help. Then I stumbled upon something that changed my life – Positive Psychology. No, not some mumbo-jumbo positive thinking or some new age fluff. Positive Psychology is a branch of traditional psychology that approaches issues from a different angle. Instead of studying what is wrong with you, Positive Psychology studies what is right with you. This science was the first thing that offered some relief to my heartache. So, I studied it, became a certified coach, and even earned a masters degree in Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania. During my learning process, it became apparent to me that my life path – my purpose – is to help others through their own healing process.
My experience and studies resulted in an online program called Step to Heal. Step to Heal employs the Science of Positive Psychology, to move you past the pain of a broken heart. Step to Heal is far more than an ordinary book you flip through. Step to Heal is an online course taught by video, online exercises, and a workbook companion. Step to Heal is based in scientific research proven to increase well-being. Step to Heal provides day-by-day, step-by-step lessons to relieve the pain from your heartbreak. Step to Heal will guide you back to a place where you feel like yourself again. In simple terms, Step to Heal will help you feel better.
Losing a love is often like losing two people – your love and your best friend. When something newsworthy happens in your life, you may still instinctively think to call or email your ex to share the news. When you realize that you no longer have that privilege, the pain seeps in. The question then becomes – can or should you be friends with your ex after the break up? You can be friends with your ex; however, there are many caveats which I discuss in Step to Heal. Love and friendships don’t disappear overnight, but there is a way to handle yourself with your ex to minimize your pain (and even their pain) after you break-up.
After spending thousands of hours working on scientifically tested heart healing methods, I have finally refined and compiled the most effective steps to create a comprehensive and definitive guide to heal the pain of your broken heart. These steps address questions like “When and how can I be friends with my ex after the break-up?”
Step to Heal takes a simple step after step, day after day method to provide you relief. What you have seen on the website is merely the tip of the iceberg. Step to Heal gets into the nitty gritty of what action to take when you can’t stop thinking about your ex, when you are immersed in loneliness, and when you suffer from anxiety and panic, to name a few typical post break up episodes. Step to Heal discusses whether you could/should be friends with your ex, what to do if you still share a home or children, and how you can realistically start moving on.
You may have read other self-help books that made you feel better while you were reading them, only for the pain to resurface. Step to Heal is different because there is little theory and a lot of action. Remember, Step to Heal, is based on scientific research proven to improve your well-being.
You may still work together, share children together, or still even live together. These situations add obvious complications to a break-up, and they are addressed separately in Step to Heal. For the time being, you need to make one commitment to yourself: take care of your mental health. It is time to take some space for yourself mentally, even if it is not possible to do so physically. Yes, you may have to do deal with your ex physically, but you can resolve to start focusing inward and take care of your mental needs. We go in-depth on this subject in Step to Heal.
If you just say, “Stop” to your negative thoughts, it doesn’t work, because that advice is missing a key ingredient. You need to assess what it is that you’re thinking, what triggers the thought, and then apply two specific techniques that both involve writing to combat the thoughts. These writing techniques can be so effective that you are often able to eliminate the thoughts within a few days.
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